Dispute Resolution Week 2015National Family Dispute Resolution Week 2015 takes place this week from 23rd – 27th November.

This fourth annual awareness-raising week led by Resolution, the national family lawyers’ group, highlights the alternatives to court for separating couples and aims provide information, advice and support  for separating families.

Research over the past 20 years  clearly shows that it is not parental separation which causes children long-term harm but rather parental conflict during separation and beyond: children exposed to adult conflict are at risk of emotional and behavioural difficulties, trouble getting on with friends and family and problems settling and achieving at school.

Many people contemplating separation or divorce still believe that it is almost inevitable that things will get ugly, legal fees will spiral and that they will inevitably find themselves in court. Sadly this image of divorce is all too common and many parents believe that there is little that they can do to protect their children from a bad divorce.

In fact there are legal Dispute Resolution (DR) options that support couples to separate without high conflict and in a way that keeps their children’s sense of family intact, albeit changed.

Collaborative law has impressive results. About 85% of cases using the collaborative approach resolve. You and your partner each choose a collaborative lawyer and commit to not going to court and to resolve things by round the table discussions. Other professionals can be brought into the process both to advise on all aspects of your finances including pensions and businesses and to support the process. The couple has real control over what is discussed and the outcome. This is quite unlike going to court where a judge will make decisions based on what he or she considers to be relevant and important. In the collaborative process couples who are parents can prioritise what they think is most important for their children.

For many couples mediation can be very effective. In mediation the couple meets with a mediator, sets their own agenda with the mediator’s help and meets to put together a full and clear financial picture before discussing how best to resolve things. Mediation is suitable for both children and money issues and couples taking part in mediation are encouraged to take legal advice as the process progresses.

Sometimes we are asked whether it is possible for a couple to come in together to see us. Although it is important that each person should have the opportunity to get separate and private legal advice at the right time it can be very helpful for you to be able to hear the same information together at the beginning of your separation journey and we offer couples information meetings for this very purpose.

A common misunderstanding about DR processes is that these only work where couples are friendly and mutual trust is high at the outset: DR processes can help to reduce conflict and build trust, something that will be very important to help you co-parent your children to successful and happy adulthood.

If you are separating or contemplating separation or having difficulties in your post separation co-parenting relationship contact us for information about how a DR process may help you.

During Family DR Week we are offering

  • free information packs
  • a special offer on couples meetings (book your meeting during this week and pay half price)
  • as usual our collaborative lawyers offer a free 30 minute information meeting about collaborative law

To find out more about these offers contact Louise Law via phone, email or Chat Live on this website.

Mary Shaw is a collaborative lawyer, an accredited family mediator and holds couples meetings. She leads Collaborative Family Law North East, the regional group for collaborative professionals.

Contact Mary for a no obligation chat.

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