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    My thanks to Mary for her understanding and support through the last couple of years.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Just a belated thank you for everything. I would have never got through this without you. Very many thanks for your excellent professional support and guidance.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Quick note to say thank you so much for the way that you handled our meeting. You were honest and very open which I really appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thank you for your support. You kept us going many a time when we wanted to give up. Thank you for giving us the strength to keep going.

    Client testimonial about Claire Hunter - Family

    Thanks for doing a brilliant job professionally with my case and for the personal support too.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Many thanks for all your help and hard work in getting these orders in place.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thanks again for your time, approach & actions. After we left he said that you were the first person who'd questioned him, listened & treat him like he was of worth. Be encouraged & encourage others.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    Can I take this opportunity to thank you for all of your help. You certainly helped to improve relations between myself and T*** for the sake of our children.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    Mary was understanding and supportive of our situation. [Mediation] helped to make us talk and sort out our finances without the cost of solicitors fees and court fees.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I am so thankful for all your help and truly believe if I hadn't met you my child and I wouldn't be going home.

    Client testimonial about Claire Hunter - Family

    Mary, thanks very much for all of your help over the recent years, I believe I made a wise choice when I selected David Gray as I believe the way in which you and your colleagues have helped me has been exceptional.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I wish to thank you, Mary and Cliff for your kindness and professional management of what seemed to me, at the beginning of the proceedings, to be a terrifying minefield.

    Client testimonial about Cliff Veitch and Mary Shaw

    Mary was patient and understanding ,she actively encouraged opinions from both sides and made the meetings a place where I felt at ease and my opinion mattered.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Just wanted to thank you so much for your representation today and your calming influence. Your professionalism and knowledge was second to none.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    Thank you to Mary for the appointment on Wednesday. I found the appointment so helpful and was very overwhelmed with certain elements but Mary was amazing and so kind and honest.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw- Family Mediation

    Just to say thank you for the time and energy you put in during our mediation process.  You could not have been more calm and understanding, in what I feel were very challenging and somewhat unique circumstances.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    A huge thank you for guiding me through the mediation process. A truly liberating experience and a novelty that for once my voice could be heard. I couldn’t have succeeded without you. With much appreciation

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Mary is just the best!! She is thorough, she listens and does what you ask. She gives excellent advice and keeps her costs sensible. She tells you when she will work on your case and keeps her word. Her secretary is very efficient and helpful too. Just a first class team and an inspirational person!

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thank you for your kindness and thoughtfulness, I really appreciate what you do for children and their parents.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Words can’t tell how much we appreciated all the help you gave us over the past few months.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    Thank you so much. Of course I regret that I will probably not see you again but at least I can draw a line under all this. Thank you for all your work and help and warmth.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Can I please pass on my sincere thanks and gratitude to Ailsa for her compassion and the advice and support she gave me recently.

    Client testimonial about Ailsa Gilhespy - Family Mediation

    I just wanted to write and thank you for all your hard work in handling my case – and for your kindness, patience and empathy.  Having you “fighting” my corner and advising me, made what was a very difficult time a little easier.  Thank you and best wishes.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    Heartfelt thanks.  I really do not know how I'd cope without you at these meetings.  You really are great at your job and its greatly appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Jenny Carter - Family

    Thank you so much for all you have done for me……it has been great having you on my side. I couldn’t have wished for a better lawyer…..and I will certainly keep your name and that of David Grays…..if I ever needed a lawyer again, for whatever reason (your advice) has made a huge difference to my own well-being, and I thank you very much.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I would like to thank you very much for all your patience, help and support during the mediation process. I am glad to report that we have a much more settled relationship and this has now caused a less tense atmosphere for the children.  I can never thank you enough for making the process as painless as possible; I felt so at ease with you, I would definitely recommend you, with hindsight I just wish we had come to you first.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    (Mary) helped me communicate better with my husband & relations were always better after each session, she helped me get my point of view across to him.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    Even if you find it tough to be in the same room as your ex and find that they won't listen to you, Mary has a way of making you feel heard, it isn't an easy process but to be able to sort things there and then is a good feeling.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I'd like to thank Mary and the rest of your team for the assistance and service provided. Thank you

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I met with your mediator, Mary for a MIAM last Wednesday, she was fabulous and I can not speak highly enough of my dealings with your practice so far.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Can I just personally thank Mary for all of her hard work

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    There’s such a lot to thank you for, like your thoughtfulness and so very much more. So I am sending warm wishes and special thanks.My life is much richer for just knowing you. People like you make the world a nicer place.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    We would like to take this opportunity to offer our many thanks for all the help and advice you gave us.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    Now that my divorce case is finally over, may I take the opportunity to let you know that I have been very pleased to have been represented by David Gray Solicitors LLP and how much I have appreciated your professional assistance and efficiency throughout the duration.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    You do a difficult job very well, you both were very skilled in ensuring that we both felt heard and in control, enabling us to reach agreement.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw & Sukhi Patter - Mediation

    Thanks for your patience with this Mary; I imagine it was quite difficult for you but then that is why I refer people to you! Quote from a local Family Solicitor

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I just wanted to say how very grateful I am to you. You've been a calm and supportive presence during what has been an enormously difficult time, and your advice has been invaluable. I'm very glad that we went down the collaborative route, and I think that your experience did much to smooth the path for everyone. Thank you.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you, …….. for your help and professionalism during this process

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Mediation

    To Elspeth, Just to say thanks for all your help over the last 6 months. If it wasn't for you I would have just given up. I really appreciate all the work you put in to this and your constant reassurance that it was the right thing to do.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    Sukhi Patter was very good in assisting me and at all times and reassuring that she was in control and very good at what she was doing.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    Thanks for all help and support through a very difficult time it is much appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Even our strenuous efforts to avoid compromise couldn’t hide your excellence and I will have no hesitation recommending your services to anyone needing a Mediator.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I am very grateful to you for your time and support. I found you very kind and genuinely caring and appreciate all you did for me.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Can I just pass on my thanks for all your efforts with regard to the finance case and result we achieved.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you for all of your help Mary, and Brian too, it was much appreciated. I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend you to others.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw and Brian Cantwell - Family Mediation

    Just a little card to say a big thank you .....Your support and encouragement over the process (as well as all the legal stuff!) has been invaluable to myself and.....if there is any way I could repay your kindness and empathy..... Many thanks, Mary, I consider you a true friend and ally!.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you for the session, it definitely helped me have a clearer perspective on a way forwards.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    You have shown the right mixture of a professional and a personal approach, which was very supportive to me and has achieved a good result.  This was extremely helpful for me as a client

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Just a quick note to say thank you so much for the way that you handled our meeting. You were honest and very open which I really appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    This has been the worst week of our lives. Your support, both legal and practical, has helped us to get through it with our sanity intact. The fact that you agreed to see us within 18 hours of my initial phone call was, quite frankly, magnificent. Huge thanks from us all.

    Client testimonial about Lesley Monkhouse - Family

Thinking about divorce or separation? Our Choosing Options Together service could be just what you need.

Hearing information about your options together, at the same time, from the same person enables you to co-operate and take decisions together from the outset. It helps to avoid misunderstandings that can happen when people seek initial advice from different lawyers. For separating couples who feel able to meet together we have developed Choosing Options Together – a service unique to David Gray Solicitors.

At a Choosing Options Together meeting, we start by discussing the key facts about you and your partner’s personal circumstances. This allows us to provide detailed information regarding the various options and services that can help you and your partner to resolve the issues you are currently facing, including Collaborative Family Law and Family Mediation.

This meeting will be helpful for:

  • Couples who are separating or contemplating separation
  • Separated or divorced couples/parents who have unresolved problems which may require legal help
  • Other connected family members who are experiencing a family problem – such as a grandparent or parent dealing with how much time a grandchild spends with the grandparent.

A Choosing Options Meeting will give each and both of you a much clearer shared understanding of the issues you need to deal with, and many clients have told us how helpful this has been for them, for example:

“Thanks for our meeting… We did find it useful and many things that you have said have helped us reach a mutual understanding of different issues and aspects of our separation. Thanks for the help in offering different perspectives and insights.”

Choosing Options Together meetings usually take about an hour and a half. You will also be given an information pack to take away. Meetings are charged at a fixed fee of £500 excluding VAT per couple.

For more information or to make an appointment contact our family team in Newcastle or South Shields by email to louise.law@davidgray.co.uk or on 0191 243 8163.

The team specialising in this area of work

  • Partner
  • Solicitor