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    We are immensely grateful to you and your team for the outcome of the court order today. The whole process has been quite stressful, but we felt fully supported and completely guided by you. You were a good friend rather than a legal contact. Your expertise of the law and how to overcome the hurdles in this difficult case were superb.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    To Elspeth, Just to say thanks for all your help over the last 6 months. If it wasn't for you I would have just given up. I really appreciate all the work you put in to this and your constant reassurance that it was the right thing to do.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    Given everything that has gone on this year whilst I’ve been trying to do my course I achieved 82% in my dissertation which I’m pinching myself about. Much credit to you for helping me through it and keeping my feet on the ground.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Dear Mary and Kim, thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me through a stressful and difficult process with all speed, diligence and expertise. I am grateful, always.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Can I take this opportunity to thank you for all of your help. You certainly helped to improve relations between myself and T*** for the sake of our children.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    Just wanted to thank you so much for your representation today and your calming influence. Your professionalism and knowledge was second to none.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    I just wanted to write and thank you for all your hard work in handling my case – and for your kindness, patience and empathy.  Having you “fighting” my corner and advising me, made what was a very difficult time a little easier.  Thank you and best wishes.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    Even if you find it tough to be in the same room as your ex and find that they won't listen to you, Mary has a way of making you feel heard, it isn't an easy process but to be able to sort things there and then is a good feeling.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Can I also thank you for the help you have given me over these final few months of my divorce and for cutting through the years of accumulated undergrowth to achieve what appears to be a satisfactory resolution....many thanks for your help it has been appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I couldn't have done it without your help and, once again, I cannot thank you enough for your expertise and very kind attention and consideration in this case.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you for your support. You kept us going many a time when we wanted to give up. Thank you for giving us the strength to keep going.

    Client testimonial about Claire Hunter - Family

    An excellent service.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw & Brian Cantwell - Family Mediation

    I just want to say thank you for your help this morning with regards to my concerns.

    Client testimonial about Louise Law - Family

    Thank you so much for all you have done for me……it has been great having you on my side. I couldn’t have wished for a better lawyer…..and I will certainly keep your name and that of David Grays…..if I ever needed a lawyer again, for whatever reason (your advice) has made a huge difference to my own well-being, and I thank you very much.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I just wanted to say how very grateful I am to you. You've been a calm and supportive presence during what has been an enormously difficult time, and your advice has been invaluable. I'm very glad that we went down the collaborative route, and I think that your experience did much to smooth the path for everyone. Thank you.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thanks for doing a brilliant job professionally with my case and for the personal support too.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Now that my divorce case is finally over, may I take the opportunity to let you know that I have been very pleased to have been represented by David Gray Solicitors LLP and how much I have appreciated your professional assistance and efficiency throughout the duration.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary was extremely helpful, friendly and caring all the way through my divorce. She gave me very good advice and helped me get a good settlement that has helped me in moving on with my life. Mary was an excellent solicitor for me and she could not have done anything better I am very grateful to have had her experience and support.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    You do a difficult job very well, you both were very skilled in ensuring that we both felt heard and in control, enabling us to reach agreement.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw & Sukhi Patter - Mediation

    Many thanks for all the sound advice and for handling a very tricky situation so well.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I would like to express my gratitude and thanks to you for the efforts made over the past couple of years to finally get me divorced.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Sukhi Patter made me feel very safe and would get the outcome in my favour. Also at no time did she make me feel worthless because I had got in arrears with paying my mortgage and would like to thank her for the outcome. Thanks very much.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    Thank you for your excellent service and your help. If I need any further advice I will come back to you and certainly I will be recommending you to anyone who needs help and advice in family matters

    Client testimonial about Ailsa Gilhespy - Family

    Just wanted to wish you and yours a wonderful happy Christmas. Thanks to you, my Christmas is going to be so much happier and relaxed than I thought it would be, so thank you.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary was understanding and supportive of our situation. [Mediation] helped to make us talk and sort out our finances without the cost of solicitors fees and court fees.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Mary Shaw has been an absolute delight to work with on finalizing my divorce. I deeply appreciate your agreeing to advise me on this matter. Your advice to me has been simply invaluable.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    There’s such a lot to thank you for, like your thoughtfulness and so very much more. So I am sending warm wishes and special thanks.My life is much richer for just knowing you. People like you make the world a nicer place.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    I am writing to thank you for the outstanding work you did for me. Words cannot give my appreciation justice. You were superbly efficient and professional.

    Client testimonial about Nicky Hunter - Family

    I wish to thank you, Mary and Cliff for your kindness and professional management of what seemed to me, at the beginning of the proceedings, to be a terrifying minefield.

    Client testimonial about Cliff Veitch and Mary Shaw

    Can I just pass on my thanks for all your efforts with regard to the finance case and result we achieved.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I am so thankful for all your help and truly believe if I hadn't met you my child and I wouldn't be going home.

    Client testimonial about Claire Hunter - Family

    Mary is just the best!! She is thorough, she listens and does what you ask. She gives excellent advice and keeps her costs sensible. She tells you when she will work on your case and keeps her word. Her secretary is very efficient and helpful too. Just a first class team and an inspirational person!

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Sukhi Patter was very good in assisting me and at all times and reassuring that she was in control and very good at what she was doing.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    I'd like to thank you for the robust facilitation you have provided us with to make these improvements. Very much appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thank you to Mary for the appointment on Wednesday. I found the appointment so helpful and was very overwhelmed with certain elements but Mary was amazing and so kind and honest.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw- Family Mediation

    Thank you, …….. for your help and professionalism during this process

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Mediation

    Can I please pass on my sincere thanks and gratitude to Ailsa for her compassion and the advice and support she gave me recently.

    Client testimonial about Ailsa Gilhespy - Family Mediation

    Heartfelt thanks.  I really do not know how I'd cope without you at these meetings.  You really are great at your job and its greatly appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Jenny Carter - Family

    I would like to thank you very much for all your patience, help and support during the mediation process. I am glad to report that we have a much more settled relationship and this has now caused a less tense atmosphere for the children.  I can never thank you enough for making the process as painless as possible; I felt so at ease with you, I would definitely recommend you, with hindsight I just wish we had come to you first.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    My mediation appointment at David Gray was very helpful, Mary is a lovely lady, very welcoming and lovely to chat to. I was very sceptical about my appointment thinking this is a waste of time. However, upon leaving I felt having someone who was not involved in the situation to talk to helped me massively to put things to bed. Thank you for your help Mary.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thank you for being a fantastic solicitor and source of support Mary I needed it!!!.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    You offer helpful solutions at times of need, which is of course over and above the pure legal aspects of the support you provide.

    Client testimonial about Ailsa Gilhespy - Mediation

    This has been the worst week of our lives. Your support, both legal and practical, has helped us to get through it with our sanity intact. The fact that you agreed to see us within 18 hours of my initial phone call was, quite frankly, magnificent. Huge thanks from us all.

    Client testimonial about Lesley Monkhouse - Family

    Thanks for yesterday - I really couldn’t do this without you, quite literally in a legal sense! But also in terms of managing emotion etc. Very much appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Please pass on my thanks to Louise who was... compassionate and efficient, a winning combination.

    Client testimonial about Louise Law - Family

    I'd like to thank Mary and the rest of your team for the assistance and service provided. Thank you

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thanks for all help and support through a very difficult time it is much appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary, thanks very much for all of your help over the recent years, I believe I made a wise choice when I selected David Gray as I believe the way in which you and your colleagues have helped me has been exceptional.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thanks again for your time, approach & actions. After we left he said that you were the first person who'd questioned him, listened & treat him like he was of worth. Be encouraged & encourage others.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    Words can’t tell how much we appreciated all the help you gave us over the past few months.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

Thinking about divorce or separation? Our Choosing Options Together service could be just what you need.

Hearing information about your options together, at the same time, from the same person enables you to co-operate and take decisions together from the outset. It helps to avoid misunderstandings that can happen when people seek initial advice from different lawyers. For separating couples who feel able to meet together we have developed Choosing Options Together – a service unique to David Gray Solicitors.

At a Choosing Options Together meeting, we start by discussing the key facts about you and your partner’s personal circumstances. This allows us to provide detailed information regarding the various options and services that can help you and your partner to resolve the issues you are currently facing, including Collaborative Family Law and Family Mediation.

This meeting will be helpful for:

  • Couples who are separating or contemplating separation
  • Separated or divorced couples/parents who have unresolved problems which may require legal help
  • Other connected family members who are experiencing a family problem – such as a grandparent or parent dealing with how much time a grandchild spends with the grandparent.

A Choosing Options Meeting will give each and both of you a much clearer shared understanding of the issues you need to deal with, and many clients have told us how helpful this has been for them, for example:

“Thanks for our meeting… We did find it useful and many things that you have said have helped us reach a mutual understanding of different issues and aspects of our separation. Thanks for the help in offering different perspectives and insights.”

Choosing Options Together meetings usually take about an hour and a half. You will also be given an information pack to take away. Meetings are charged at a fixed fee of £500 excluding VAT per couple.

For more information or to make an appointment contact our family team in Newcastle or South Shields by email to louise.law@davidgray.co.uk or on 0191 243 8163.

The team specialising in this area of work

  • Partner
  • Solicitor