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    Just wanted to wish you and yours a wonderful happy Christmas. Thanks to you, my Christmas is going to be so much happier and relaxed than I thought it would be, so thank you.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Can I please pass on my sincere thanks and gratitude to Ailsa for her compassion and the advice and support she gave me recently.

    Client testimonial about Ailsa Gilhespy - Family Mediation

    Thanks for your patience with this Mary; I imagine it was quite difficult for you but then that is why I refer people to you! Quote from a local Family Solicitor

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Words can’t tell how much we appreciated all the help you gave us over the past few months.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    Can I take this opportunity to thank you for all of your help. You certainly helped to improve relations between myself and T*** for the sake of our children.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    Thanks again for your time, approach & actions. After we left he said that you were the first person who'd questioned him, listened & treat him like he was of worth. Be encouraged & encourage others.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    Thanks for your time today and your pragmatic approach.If you had been our first mediator, then things may have been less confrontational when (as the stats suggest) my friends go through similar, my advice - “Go to Mary!”

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw- Family Mediation

    Thank you for your highly professional support, and attention to detail……. At the start I was not sure how the long distance collaboration would work but it has been a very friendly, easy, working relationship between us, and I appreciate very much how you conveyed a sense of solidarity to me even though we have never met. I would also like to thank Kim who was the perfect 'relay' between us whenever it was necessary.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary, thank you very much for all the time and effort you have put in to get me to this good place now.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    The MIAM was incredibly helpful. You gave me all of the information I would have expected a solicitor to give me at a first meeting.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation & Family

    Thank you for the session, it definitely helped me have a clearer perspective on a way forwards.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thank you for your kindness and thoughtfulness, I really appreciate what you do for children and their parents.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Dear Mary and Kim, thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me through a stressful and difficult process with all speed, diligence and expertise. I am grateful, always.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Really appreciate your patience and understanding, and great professional approach. Hopefully we will see each other again, if not, I'll happily recommend you to anyone who may need your services.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Heartfelt thanks.  I really do not know how I'd cope without you at these meetings.  You really are great at your job and its greatly appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Jenny Carter - Family

    Just to say thank you for the time and energy you put in during our mediation process.  You could not have been more calm and understanding, in what I feel were very challenging and somewhat unique circumstances.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Mary Shaw has been an absolute delight to work with on finalizing my divorce. I deeply appreciate your agreeing to advise me on this matter. Your advice to me has been simply invaluable.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I would like to thank you for the service you have provided over the past few weeks. I believe that you’re prompt intervention, with regard to legality, and the professional manner in which you presented at the hearing played a key part in the other parties’ claim being dismissed.

    Client testimonial about Lucy Mead - Family

    Just a quick note to say thank you so much for the way that you handled our meeting. You were honest and very open which I really appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thank you for your support. You kept us going many a time when we wanted to give up. Thank you for giving us the strength to keep going.

    Client testimonial about Claire Hunter - Family

    ‘I really do absolutely appreciate everything you have done for me and the boys and we are in such a better place now with all your advice and support.’

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Mediation

    I would like to express my gratitude and thanks to you for the efforts made over the past couple of years to finally get me divorced.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary was understanding and supportive of our situation. [Mediation] helped to make us talk and sort out our finances without the cost of solicitors fees and court fees.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Mary was patient and understanding ,she actively encouraged opinions from both sides and made the meetings a place where I felt at ease and my opinion mattered.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Many thanks for all the sound advice and for handling a very tricky situation so well.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I am very grateful to you for your time and support. I found you very kind and genuinely caring and appreciate all you did for me.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    My mediation appointment at David Gray was very helpful, Mary is a lovely lady, very welcoming and lovely to chat to. I was very sceptical about my appointment thinking this is a waste of time. However, upon leaving I felt having someone who was not involved in the situation to talk to helped me massively to put things to bed. Thank you for your help Mary.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thank you Mary. I am grateful for your empathy and understanding during our conversation this morning.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thank you for all of your help Mary, and Brian too, it was much appreciated. I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend you to others.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw and Brian Cantwell - Family Mediation

    I'd like to thank you for the robust facilitation you have provided us with to make these improvements. Very much appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    I would like to thank you very much for all your patience, help and support during the mediation process. I am glad to report that we have a much more settled relationship and this has now caused a less tense atmosphere for the children.  I can never thank you enough for making the process as painless as possible; I felt so at ease with you, I would definitely recommend you, with hindsight I just wish we had come to you first.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Thank you for being a fantastic solicitor and source of support Mary I needed it!!!.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you again – you have made me feel at ease and I can relax a bit more now

    Client testimonial about Louise Law - Family

    Can I just personally thank Mary for all of her hard work

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    Thank you so much. Of course I regret that I will probably not see you again but at least I can draw a line under all this. Thank you for all your work and help and warmth.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you to Mary for the appointment on Wednesday. I found the appointment so helpful and was very overwhelmed with certain elements but Mary was amazing and so kind and honest.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw- Family Mediation

    I chose to work with Mary because of her no-nonsense approach – no false promises, no big ego claims – just downright honesty and integrity and a delivery of results at the end. Mary is professional, reassuring and has a great sense of humour. I would highly recommend her.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I'd like to thank Mary and the rest of your team for the assistance and service provided. Thank you

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary Shaw is a wonder! Oh my goodness! I spent a really productive hour with her and am glad.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM)

    Even if you find it tough to be in the same room as your ex and find that they won't listen to you, Mary has a way of making you feel heard, it isn't an easy process but to be able to sort things there and then is a good feeling.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    A huge thank you for guiding me through the mediation process. A truly liberating experience and a novelty that for once my voice could be heard. I couldn’t have succeeded without you. With much appreciation

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I couldn't have done it without your help and, once again, I cannot thank you enough for your expertise and very kind attention and consideration in this case.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Even our strenuous efforts to avoid compromise couldn’t hide your excellence and I will have no hesitation recommending your services to anyone needing a Mediator.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Firstly many thanks for handling our case and its successful outcome, we are delighted that matters have been sorted.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    Sukhi Patter was very good in assisting me and at all times and reassuring that she was in control and very good at what she was doing.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    I just wanted to write and thank you for all your hard work in handling my case – and for your kindness, patience and empathy.  Having you “fighting” my corner and advising me, made what was a very difficult time a little easier.  Thank you and best wishes.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    You have been superb.

    Client testimonial about Lucy Mead - Family

    Mary was wonderful. She let me speak and explained everything clearly. I so appreciated her kindness and listening skills. Mary made me feel I had a choice, a voice and that I was able to put my views forward made me feel less stressed.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Thank you for the MIAM session, it definitely helped me have a clearer perspective on a way forwards.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    We would like to take this opportunity to offer our many thanks for all the help and advice you gave us.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

What is Collaborative Law?

In the Collaborative Law process (also known as Collaborative Family Law or Collaborative Practice) each person has his or her own specially trained lawyer. You, your partner and both lawyers work as a team to resolve issues through a series of roundtable 4-way meetings (two of you plus two lawyers and your family consultant).

We all sign an agreement at the beginning that we will not go to court. If one of you later changes your mind about this, both of you have to appoint new lawyers. This helps to ensure we all remain focussed on constructively resolving the issues and threatening phrases like “see you in court” lose all meaning. In our experience, this feature of the agreement is very powerful and encourages imaginative problem solving and allows you to reach a truly tailor-made set of solutions for you both and for your children.  CFL have produced this excellent article on Collaborative Law.

Unlike court where a judge decides what is important in your case, if something is important to one of you, then it is important in the process and will be given time.  The following video provides a useful introduction to Collaborative Law:

The Collaborative Process

Our specialist lawyers at our Newcastle and South Shields offices are by your side throughout the collaborative law process to manage the discussions in a constructive, non-confrontational way. As the discussions take place face to face there is little room for misunderstandings.

Our collaborative lawyers are trained to help you to overcome communication difficulties so you can focus on finding the solutions that are right for your family. They will advise and guide you about the law, working together to encourage you to consider the whole family’s needs.

It is usual for other professionals to be brought into the collaborative law process to help us all find solutions for your family. These people can include accountants, pensions experts, tax advisers and Independent Financial Advisors to support your discussions and decisions.

Meetings usually last for one to two hours and typically, there are between two and five meetings, depending on how complex your case is.

We undertook the first collaborative case in the North East over 10 years ago and now have four collaborative lawyers in our team. We are ranked in the top category in each of the independent legal directories – The Legal 500 rank us in the top tier where we are noted for our collaborative law work and in Chambers and Partners we are also listed in Band 1 where the team are noted as “standing out for its collaborative law expertise”.

Contact

For more information or to make an appointment contact our family team in Newcastle or South Shields by email to louise.law@davidgray.co.uk or on 0191 243 8163.

The team specialising in this area of work

  • Partner
  • Solicitor
  • Solicitor