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    I would like to thank Mary Shaw in particular for her excellent approach, with a balance of professionalism, pragmatism and compassion. I would rate Mary highly as a Mediator & solicitor, and have no hesitation in recommending her services.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Sukhi Patter was very good in assisting me and at all times and reassuring that she was in control and very good at what she was doing.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    You have shown the right mixture of a professional and a personal approach, which was very supportive to me and has achieved a good result.  This was extremely helpful for me as a client

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I chose to work with Mary because of her no-nonsense approach – no false promises, no big ego claims – just downright honesty and integrity and a delivery of results at the end. Mary is professional, reassuring and has a great sense of humour. I would highly recommend her.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    ‘I really do absolutely appreciate everything you have done for me and the boys and we are in such a better place now with all your advice and support.’

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Mediation

    Words can’t tell how much we appreciated all the help you gave us over the past few months.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    Can’t thank you enough for your care and consideration, attention to detail and support along the way – and for making a painful process far less so. I trusted you 100% from day one

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    A huge thank you for guiding me through the mediation process. A truly liberating experience and a novelty that for once my voice could be heard. I couldn’t have succeeded without you. With much appreciation

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Can I take this opportunity to thank you for all of your help. You certainly helped to improve relations between myself and T*** for the sake of our children.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    I am very grateful to you for your time and support. I found you very kind and genuinely caring and appreciate all you did for me.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Now that my divorce case is finally over, may I take the opportunity to let you know that I have been very pleased to have been represented by David Gray Solicitors LLP and how much I have appreciated your professional assistance and efficiency throughout the duration.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary was understanding and supportive of our situation. [Mediation] helped to make us talk and sort out our finances without the cost of solicitors fees and court fees.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I'd like to thank Mary and the rest of your team for the assistance and service provided. Thank you

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you for your highly professional support, and attention to detail……. At the start I was not sure how the long distance collaboration would work but it has been a very friendly, easy, working relationship between us, and I appreciate very much how you conveyed a sense of solidarity to me even though we have never met. I would also like to thank Kim who was the perfect 'relay' between us whenever it was necessary.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Heartfelt thanks.  I really do not know how I'd cope without you at these meetings.  You really are great at your job and its greatly appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Jenny Carter - Family

    I have found the mediation valuable beyond measure, especially having been so sceptical to begin with.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Thanks for your patience with this Mary; I imagine it was quite difficult for you but then that is why I refer people to you! Quote from a local Family Solicitor

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    To eventually get to the end of the process and have a fabulous relationship with my daughters seems miles away from where we started and I am in no doubt that you have been a large factor in that happening. I can’t thank you enough and wish you well in the future.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Dear Mary and Kim, thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me through a stressful and difficult process with all speed, diligence and expertise. I am grateful, always.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    My thanks to Mary for her understanding and support through the last couple of years.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    We would like to take this opportunity to offer our many thanks for all the help and advice you gave us.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    Thank you for your support. You kept us going many a time when we wanted to give up. Thank you for giving us the strength to keep going.

    Client testimonial about Claire Hunter - Family

    Even if you find it tough to be in the same room as your ex and find that they won't listen to you, Mary has a way of making you feel heard, it isn't an easy process but to be able to sort things there and then is a good feeling.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Thanks for all help and support through a very difficult time it is much appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you so much for all the help and advice. You definitely took some of the stress out of it all.

    Client testimonial about Claire Hunter - Family

    Thank you for explaining it all so well.

    Client testimonial about Louise Law - Family

    I just wanted to say how very grateful I am to you. You've been a calm and supportive presence during what has been an enormously difficult time, and your advice has been invaluable. I'm very glad that we went down the collaborative route, and I think that your experience did much to smooth the path for everyone. Thank you.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thanks again for all your amazing help over the case – you helped me so much at a time that was probably the most stressful I’ve had in my life (which for the things in my background is saying something). My very best to you and your team.

    Client testimonial about Jenny Carter - Family

    Thank you again – you have made me feel at ease and I can relax a bit more now

    Client testimonial about Louise Law - Family

    You have been amazing and I really have appreciated your input.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I would like to thank you for the service you have provided over the past few weeks. I believe that you’re prompt intervention, with regard to legality, and the professional manner in which you presented at the hearing played a key part in the other parties’ claim being dismissed.

    Client testimonial about Lucy Mead - Family

    You have been superb.

    Client testimonial about Lucy Mead - Family

    Sukhi Patter made me feel very safe and would get the outcome in my favour. Also at no time did she make me feel worthless because I had got in arrears with paying my mortgage and would like to thank her for the outcome. Thanks very much.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    With many thanks for your calm and measured support and guidance during this difficult case.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I couldn't have done it without your help and, once again, I cannot thank you enough for your expertise and very kind attention and consideration in this case.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Please pass on my thanks to Louise who was... compassionate and efficient, a winning combination.

    Client testimonial about Louise Law - Family

    Can I please pass on my sincere thanks and gratitude to Ailsa for her compassion and the advice and support she gave me recently.

    Client testimonial about Ailsa Gilhespy - Family Mediation

    The MIAM was incredibly helpful. You gave me all of the information I would have expected a solicitor to give me at a first meeting.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation & Family

    Can I also thank you for the help you have given me over these final few months of my divorce and for cutting through the years of accumulated undergrowth to achieve what appears to be a satisfactory resolution....many thanks for your help it has been appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you so much. Of course I regret that I will probably not see you again but at least I can draw a line under all this. Thank you for all your work and help and warmth.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Firstly many thanks for handling our case and its successful outcome, we are delighted that matters have been sorted.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    Mary, thanks very much for all of your help over the recent years, I believe I made a wise choice when I selected David Gray as I believe the way in which you and your colleagues have helped me has been exceptional.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary was patient and understanding ,she actively encouraged opinions from both sides and made the meetings a place where I felt at ease and my opinion mattered.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    You do a difficult job very well, you both were very skilled in ensuring that we both felt heard and in control, enabling us to reach agreement.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw & Sukhi Patter - Mediation

    I would like to thank you very much for all your patience, help and support during the mediation process. I am glad to report that we have a much more settled relationship and this has now caused a less tense atmosphere for the children.  I can never thank you enough for making the process as painless as possible; I felt so at ease with you, I would definitely recommend you, with hindsight I just wish we had come to you first.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Just wanted to wish you and yours a wonderful happy Christmas. Thanks to you, my Christmas is going to be so much happier and relaxed than I thought it would be, so thank you.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Can I just pass on my thanks for all your efforts with regard to the finance case and result we achieved.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you, …….. for your help and professionalism during this process

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Mediation

    It has been a pleasure working with you – I will recommend you far and wide!.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I do appreciate the skillful support you gave us, the plans that we agreed with you are working well and we are now mostly managing to avoid conflict.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter & Mary Shaw - Mediation

In the Collaborative Law process (also known as Collaborative Family Law or Collaborative Practice) each person has his or her own specially trained lawyer. You, your partner and both lawyers work as a team to resolve issues through a series of roundtable 4-way meetings (two of you plus two lawyers).

We all sign an agreement at the beginning that we will not go to court. If one of you later changes your mind about this, both of you have to appoint new lawyers. This helps to ensure we all remain focussed on constructively resolving the issues and threatening phrases like “see you in court” lose all meaning. In our experience, this feature of the agreement is very powerful and encourages imaginative problem solving and allows you to reach a truly tailor-made set of solutions for you both and for your children.

Unlike court where a judge decides what is important in your case if something is important to one of you then it is important in the process and will be given time.

Our specialist lawyers at our Newcastle and South Shields offices are by your side throughout the collaborative law process to manage the discussions in a constructive, non-confrontational way. As the discussions take place face to face there is little room for misunderstandings.

Our collaborative lawyers are trained to help you to overcome communication difficulties so you can focus on finding the solutions that are right for your family. They will advise and guide you about the law, working together to encourage you to consider the whole family’s needs.

It is usual for other professionals to be brought into the collaborative law process to help us all find solutions for your family. These people can include accountants, pensions experts, tax advisers and family consultants to offer emotional support and insight to help you through.

Meetings usually last for one to two hours and typically,  there are between two and four meetings, depending on how complex your case is.

We undertook the first collaborative case in the North East almost 10 years ago and now have 4 collaborative lawyers in our team. We are listed in Tier 1 in Legal 500  where we are noted for our collaborative law work. In  Chambers we are also listed in Tier 1 -“..the team stands out for its collaborative law expertise”.

For more information please contact us for a no-obligation chat with one of our collaborative law team in Newcastle, South Shields and, by appointment, Hexham.

The team specialising in this area of work

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  • Solicitor
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