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    Mary was patient and understanding ,she actively encouraged opinions from both sides and made the meetings a place where I felt at ease and my opinion mattered.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    (Mary) helped me communicate better with my husband & relations were always better after each session, she helped me get my point of view across to him.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    Mary, thanks very much for all of your help over the recent years, I believe I made a wise choice when I selected David Gray as I believe the way in which you and your colleagues have helped me has been exceptional.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I wish to thank you, Mary and Cliff for your kindness and professional management of what seemed to me, at the beginning of the proceedings, to be a terrifying minefield.

    Client testimonial about Cliff Veitch and Mary Shaw

    Thanks for your time today and your pragmatic approach.If you had been our first mediator, then things may have been less confrontational when (as the stats suggest) my friends go through similar, my advice - “Go to Mary!”

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw- Family Mediation

    I chose to work with Mary because of her no-nonsense approach – no false promises, no big ego claims – just downright honesty and integrity and a delivery of results at the end. Mary is professional, reassuring and has a great sense of humour. I would highly recommend her.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I would like to express my gratitude and thanks to you for the efforts made over the past couple of years to finally get me divorced.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Can I take this opportunity to thank you for all of your help. You certainly helped to improve relations between myself and T*** for the sake of our children.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    Thanks again for all your amazing help over the case – you helped me so much at a time that was probably the most stressful I’ve had in my life (which for the things in my background is saying something). My very best to you and your team.

    Client testimonial about Jenny Carter - Family

    After the mediation session with Mary I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Thank you so much for your kindness and understanding when I have been in distress.

    Client testimonial about Lucy Mead - Family

    Many thanks for all your help and hard work in getting these orders in place.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thanks for all help and support through a very difficult time it is much appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    You have been amazing and I really have appreciated your input.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Just a quick note to say thank you so much for the way that you handled our meeting. You were honest and very open which I really appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    With many thanks for your calm and measured support and guidance during this difficult case.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you Mary. I am grateful for your empathy and understanding during our conversation this morning.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    To Elspeth, Just to say thanks for all your help over the last 6 months. If it wasn't for you I would have just given up. I really appreciate all the work you put in to this and your constant reassurance that it was the right thing to do.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    Can I also thank you for the help you have given me over these final few months of my divorce and for cutting through the years of accumulated undergrowth to achieve what appears to be a satisfactory resolution....many thanks for your help it has been appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you for explaining it all so well.

    Client testimonial about Louise Law - Family

    I would like to thank you for the service you have provided over the past few weeks. I believe that you’re prompt intervention, with regard to legality, and the professional manner in which you presented at the hearing played a key part in the other parties’ claim being dismissed.

    Client testimonial about Lucy Mead - Family

    Sukhi Patter made me feel very safe and would get the outcome in my favour. Also at no time did she make me feel worthless because I had got in arrears with paying my mortgage and would like to thank her for the outcome. Thanks very much.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    Mary Shaw has been an absolute delight to work with on finalizing my divorce. I deeply appreciate your agreeing to advise me on this matter. Your advice to me has been simply invaluable.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Just a belated thank you for everything. I would have never got through this without you. Very many thanks for your excellent professional support and guidance.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Can I just personally thank Mary for all of her hard work

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    I would like to thank Mary Shaw in particular for her excellent approach, with a balance of professionalism, pragmatism and compassion. I would rate Mary highly as a Mediator & solicitor, and have no hesitation in recommending her services.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Mary was wonderful. She let me speak and explained everything clearly. I so appreciated her kindness and listening skills. Mary made me feel I had a choice, a voice and that I was able to put my views forward made me feel less stressed.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I couldn't have done it without your help and, once again, I cannot thank you enough for your expertise and very kind attention and consideration in this case.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    An excellent service.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw & Brian Cantwell - Family Mediation

    Can I just pass on my thanks for all your efforts with regard to the finance case and result we achieved.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary was extremely helpful, friendly and caring all the way through my divorce. She gave me very good advice and helped me get a good settlement that has helped me in moving on with my life. Mary was an excellent solicitor for me and she could not have done anything better I am very grateful to have had her experience and support.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I met with your mediator, Mary for a MIAM last Wednesday, she was fabulous and I can not speak highly enough of my dealings with your practice so far.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thanks for your patience with this Mary; I imagine it was quite difficult for you but then that is why I refer people to you! Quote from a local Family Solicitor

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I just want to say thank you for your help this morning with regards to my concerns.

    Client testimonial about Louise Law - Family

    Even our strenuous efforts to avoid compromise couldn’t hide your excellence and I will have no hesitation recommending your services to anyone needing a Mediator.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Thank you for your kindness and thoughtfulness, I really appreciate what you do for children and their parents.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Thanks for yesterday - I really couldn’t do this without you, quite literally in a legal sense! But also in terms of managing emotion etc. Very much appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thank you for the session, it definitely helped me have a clearer perspective on a way forwards.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Really appreciate your patience and understanding, and great professional approach. Hopefully we will see each other again, if not, I'll happily recommend you to anyone who may need your services.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Quick note to say thank you so much for the way that you handled our meeting. You were honest and very open which I really appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Dear Mary and Kim, thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me through a stressful and difficult process with all speed, diligence and expertise. I am grateful, always.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Words can’t tell how much we appreciated all the help you gave us over the past few months.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    There’s such a lot to thank you for, like your thoughtfulness and so very much more. So I am sending warm wishes and special thanks.My life is much richer for just knowing you. People like you make the world a nicer place.

    Client testimonial about Sukhi Patter - Family

    You do a difficult job very well, you both were very skilled in ensuring that we both felt heard and in control, enabling us to reach agreement.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw & Sukhi Patter - Mediation

    Just to say thank you for the time and energy you put in during our mediation process.  You could not have been more calm and understanding, in what I feel were very challenging and somewhat unique circumstances.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    To eventually get to the end of the process and have a fabulous relationship with my daughters seems miles away from where we started and I am in no doubt that you have been a large factor in that happening. I can’t thank you enough and wish you well in the future.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Your support and advice has been a great comfort this last year and half. I wish you well too.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family & Mediation

    Thank you so much for all you have done for me……it has been great having you on my side. I couldn’t have wished for a better lawyer…..and I will certainly keep your name and that of David Grays…..if I ever needed a lawyer again, for whatever reason (your advice) has made a huge difference to my own well-being, and I thank you very much.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    We are immensely grateful to you and your team for the outcome of the court order today. The whole process has been quite stressful, but we felt fully supported and completely guided by you. You were a good friend rather than a legal contact. Your expertise of the law and how to overcome the hurdles in this difficult case were superb.

    Client testimonial about Elspeth Thomson - Family

    The MIAM was incredibly helpful. You gave me all of the information I would have expected a solicitor to give me at a first meeting.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation & Family

What is Collaborative Law?

In the Collaborative Law process (also known as Collaborative Family Law or Collaborative Practice) each person has his or her own specially trained lawyer. You, your partner and both lawyers work as a team to resolve issues through a series of roundtable 4-way meetings (two of you plus two lawyers and your family consultant).

We all sign an agreement at the beginning that we will not go to court. If one of you later changes your mind about this, both of you have to appoint new lawyers. This helps to ensure we all remain focussed on constructively resolving the issues and threatening phrases like “see you in court” lose all meaning. In our experience, this feature of the agreement is very powerful and encourages imaginative problem solving and allows you to reach a truly tailor-made set of solutions for you both and for your children.  CFL have produced this excellent article on Collaborative Law.

Unlike court where a judge decides what is important in your case, if something is important to one of you, then it is important in the process and will be given time.  The following video provides a useful introduction to Collaborative Law:

The Collaborative Process

Our specialist lawyers at our Newcastle and South Shields offices are by your side throughout the collaborative law process to manage the discussions in a constructive, non-confrontational way. As the discussions take place face to face there is little room for misunderstandings.

Our collaborative lawyers are trained to help you to overcome communication difficulties so you can focus on finding the solutions that are right for your family. They will advise and guide you about the law, working together to encourage you to consider the whole family’s needs.

It is usual for other professionals to be brought into the collaborative law process to help us all find solutions for your family. These people can include accountants, pensions experts, tax advisers and Independent Financial Advisors to support your discussions and decisions.

Meetings usually last for one to two hours and typically, there are between two and five meetings, depending on how complex your case is.

We undertook the first collaborative case in the North East over 10 years ago and now have four collaborative lawyers in our team. We are ranked in the top category in each of the independent legal directories – The Legal 500 rank us in the top tier where we are noted for our collaborative law work and in Chambers and Partners we are also listed in Band 1 where the team are noted as “standing out for its collaborative law expertise”.

Contact

For more information or to make an appointment contact our family team in Newcastle or South Shields by email to louise.law@davidgray.co.uk or on 0191 243 8163.

The team specialising in this area of work

  • Partner
  • Solicitor
  • Solicitor