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Mary Shaw

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  • Given everything that has gone on this year whilst I’ve been trying to do my course I achieved 82% in my dissertation which I’m pinching myself about. Much credit to you for helping me through it and keeping my feet on the ground.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thanks for yesterday - I really couldn’t do this without you, quite literally in a legal sense! But also in terms of managing emotion etc. Very much appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thanks for your time today and your pragmatic approach.If you had been our first mediator, then things may have been less confrontational when (as the stats suggest) my friends go through similar, my advice - “Go to Mary!”

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw- Family Mediation

    Mary Shaw is a wonder! Oh my goodness! I spent a really productive hour with her and am glad.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM)

    Thank you to Mary for the appointment on Wednesday. I found the appointment so helpful and was very overwhelmed with certain elements but Mary was amazing and so kind and honest.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw- Family Mediation

    To say that your professionalism and quality of service have been faultless would be telling only half the story. Throughout all that has gone on, your honest advice and genuine care have been an invaluable support, for which I will always be grateful.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Can I just personally thank Mary for all of her hard work

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    Many thanks for the sessions we had with you. I found them very helpful and you were very calm and thoughtful throughout the process.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Dear Mary and Kim, thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me through a stressful and difficult process with all speed, diligence and expertise. I am grateful, always.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Can’t thank you enough for your care and consideration, attention to detail and support along the way – and for making a painful process far less so. I trusted you 100% from day one

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    It has been a pleasure working with you – I will recommend you far and wide!.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you so much. Of course I regret that I will probably not see you again but at least I can draw a line under all this. Thank you for all your work and help and warmth.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I was the luckiest person to have Mary Shaw help me through my divorce. She was firm, but never pushy, forthright but always fair, sympathetic but never deviated from the goal of practically carrying me through this torrid time. She was always there.She was the friend that talked sense and gave you a gentle shake to wise up and push forward.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary, thanks very much for all of your help over the recent years, I believe I made a wise choice when I selected David Gray as I believe the way in which you and your colleagues have helped me has been exceptional.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Even if you find it tough to be in the same room as your ex and find that they won't listen to you, Mary has a way of making you feel heard, it isn't an easy process but to be able to sort things there and then is a good feeling.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I just wanted to say how very grateful I am to you. You've been a calm and supportive presence during what has been an enormously difficult time, and your advice has been invaluable. I'm very glad that we went down the collaborative route, and I think that your experience did much to smooth the path for everyone. Thank you.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary Shaw has been an absolute delight to work with on finalizing my divorce. I deeply appreciate your agreeing to advise me on this matter. Your advice to me has been simply invaluable.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Mary was patient and understanding ,she actively encouraged opinions from both sides and made the meetings a place where I felt at ease and my opinion mattered.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I chose to work with Mary because of her no-nonsense approach – no false promises, no big ego claims – just downright honesty and integrity and a delivery of results at the end. Mary is professional, reassuring and has a great sense of humour. I would highly recommend her.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    After the mediation session with Mary I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I'd like to thank you for the robust facilitation you have provided us with to make these improvements. Very much appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thank you for all your help with my divorce, I can't tell you how much happier I feel now it is all over. I am a different person to the one who came into your office last year, I was quite lost at the time but now I see a positive future.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you for your highly professional support, and attention to detail……. At the start I was not sure how the long distance collaboration would work but it has been a very friendly, easy, working relationship between us, and I appreciate very much how you conveyed a sense of solidarity to me even though we have never met. I would also like to thank Kim who was the perfect 'relay' between us whenever it was necessary.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I am very grateful to you for your time and support. I found you very kind and genuinely caring and appreciate all you did for me.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Thank you for being a fantastic solicitor and source of support Mary I needed it!!!.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I received a letter from Mary with regards to mediation both myself and XX attended together. We have made a workable child arrangement that both parties and children are happy with and will not require a second mediation session. I hope in future if we ever needed to come back we would have the chance to as Mary has helped us a lot. Thank you very much for everything.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    An excellent service.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw & Brian Cantwell - Family Mediation

    Thank you for all of your help Mary, and Brian too, it was much appreciated. I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend you to others.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw and Brian Cantwell - Family Mediation

    Now that my divorce case is finally over, may I take the opportunity to let you know that I have been very pleased to have been represented by David Gray Solicitors LLP and how much I have appreciated your professional assistance and efficiency throughout the duration.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    They were very understanding of our situation and allowed us to discuss a plan for our future more rationally and with clear parameters.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw & Brian Cantwell - Family Mediation

    Thank you for the MIAM session, it definitely helped me have a clearer perspective on a way forwards.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Thank you very much for seeing me….and especially for giving such helpful advice about the contact with the children…..the meeting with you was extremely uplifting

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I have found the mediation valuable beyond measure, especially having been so sceptical to begin with.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    Can I just pass on my thanks for all your efforts with regard to the finance case and result we achieved.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    You have shown the right mixture of a professional and a personal approach, which was very supportive to me and has achieved a good result.  This was extremely helpful for me as a client

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    You were excellent throughout my divorce. My kids are my world and I can't thank you enough for your support during this time. You are a dedicated, professional and intuitive lawyer and I will always be grateful for what you gave me in self confidence and advice.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Fantastic news on my decree absolute, thanks for all your help and patience, you have been brilliant.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Many thanks for all your help and hard work in getting these orders in place.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    My thanks to Mary for her understanding and support through the last couple of years.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    I couldn't have done it without your help and, once again, I cannot thank you enough for your expertise and very kind attention and consideration in this case.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Quick note to say thank you so much for the way that you handled our meeting. You were honest and very open which I really appreciated.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    You do a difficult job very well, you both were very skilled in ensuring that we both felt heard and in control, enabling us to reach agreement.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw & Sukhi Patter - Mediation

    I met with your mediator, Mary for a MIAM last Wednesday, she was fabulous and I can not speak highly enough of my dealings with your practice so far.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    Just to say thank you for the time and energy you put in during our mediation process.  You could not have been more calm and understanding, in what I feel were very challenging and somewhat unique circumstances.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family Mediation

    To eventually get to the end of the process and have a fabulous relationship with my daughters seems miles away from where we started and I am in no doubt that you have been a large factor in that happening. I can’t thank you enough and wish you well in the future.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Many thanks for all the sound advice and for handling a very tricky situation so well.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Thank you for your kindness and thoughtfulness, I really appreciate what you do for children and their parents.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Mediation

    I can't thank you enough for being such a marvellous solicitor. I have had such confidence in you that it has kept a very stressful situation bearable. But you have spoilt me because my standards are now set so high.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family

    Can I take this opportunity to thank you for all of your help. You certainly helped to improve relations between myself and T*** for the sake of our children.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw – Mediation

    Your support and advice has been a great comfort this last year and half. I wish you well too.

    Client testimonial about Mary Shaw - Family & Mediation

    I am interested in my clients as people and I will be honest about what is and is not achievable, whilst always trying to keep my clients focused, with hope, on life after the legal process is over. I believe that many couples can achieve a good divorce or separation that focuses on the whole family’s best interests and that there is an available process which will support them to do this.

    I have practised as a Family Lawyer since 1984 and am accredited by Resolution as a specialist lawyer in the areas of Advanced Financial Provision and Private Children Law; I was a member of the Children Panel for 25 years until 2018.

    In 2006 I trained as a collaborative family lawyer and I was involved in the first collaborative family case in the North East in 2007. Since then I have regularly worked collaboratively with legal colleagues. I am an active member of the North East Collaborative Group.

    In 2010 I trained as a family mediator and am now FMC accredited. In 2013 I became qualified to undertake direct consultation with children in mediation and in 2016 I became a Professional Practice Consultant with supervisory status for mediation. I am increasingly working with my clients in non-court family dispute resolution processes dealing with both children and finance issues.

    During the past decade I have become increasingly aware that Court is not a good choice for many families and I have looked harder and harder at other options. What is right for one client is not right for another and here at David Gray I have developed a Couples Information Meeting to help couples make an informed choice about how they wish to resolve their separation issues.

    I was a Board member of Relate, Northumberland and Tyneside for full 10-year tenure and I led the North East Collaborative Group. I am a member of the national Resolution Dispute Resolution Committee and am often asked to talk to lawyers about developing dispute resolution practice.  I read law at Durham University.

    Family team

    Our family team is ranked top tier in both leading legal directories. In the Legal 500 I am noted for my commitment to mediation and collaborative law and I am described as “excellent” and “innovative in (my) practice.” In the current Legal 500 it says that I am a ‘calm and effective’ dispute resolution specialist, and a ‘flag bearer for collaborative law, approaching cases pragmatically while remaining sensitive to the needs and aspirations of clients’.

    I am named as a key individual in leading legal directory Chambers & Partners where I am noted for my mediation and collaborative practice. “Mary Shaw is singled out for her involvement in high-value financial remedy cases. She has expertise in childcare and domestic abuse matters, and is commended for her solution-orientated approach. One client says:

    “I was most impressed. She is very good at interpersonal relations, and is also calm and efficient. She is clearly very committed to the collaborative process.”

    In July 2017 I won Lawyer of the Year in the Private Family (including mediation) category at the 14th LALY awards in London which was a huge honour.

    Recommendations

    Clients have been very kind in acknowledging my support and advice. One of my clients wrote

    “I just wanted to say how grateful I am to you. You have been a calm and supportive presence during what has been enormously difficult time, and your advice has been invaluable. I am very glad that we went down the collaborative route, and I think that your experience did much to smooth the path for everyone. Thank you.”

    Another recommended me on LinkedIn:

    “I chose to work with Mary because of her no-nonsense approach – no false promises, no big ego claims – just downright honesty and integrity and delivery of results at the end. Mary is professional, reassuring and has a great sense of humour. I would highly recommend her.”

    A mediation client has recently written:

    “Many thanks for the sessions we had with you. I found them very helpful and you were very calm and thoughtful throughout the process.”

    I work with clients out of the region who choose me for my skillset and approach and because I can provide expert advice at rates lower than firms in the South East.

    One such client has recommended me on LinkedIn:

    “Mary is a rare breed of Family Lawyer who resists the predictable lengthy, costly and nasty adversarial path to divorce settlement. She prefers to get there through a real understanding of the situation while encouraging dialogue and compromise in everyone’s best interests; a genuine ‘hearts and minds’ approach. Her integrity, honesty and down-to-earth approach are really refreshing. The cost of her time is very reasonable considering her seniority and she is adept in good advice for the optimal route forward. No divorce conclusion could ever be described as ‘good’ when children are involved but it was at least fair. I am very glad to have had Mary’s experience, discipline, calmness, objectivity, sensitivity and encouragement throughout such an unpleasant process. Mary was based in Newcastle while I was in London so, extraordinarily, we never actually met face to face because we never needed to. Nevertheless by the time it was all over she felt like an old friend. I would recommend her support and services to anyone facing separation or divorce and in all matters of Family Law.”